TATIS

Let’s have a brief understanding of these types and kinds of sex before we have a glimpse of the TATIS. From a broad perspective, sex can be Natural Sex and Unnatural Sex. As the name suggests, natural sex is natural and it’s the type of intercourse that happens between only a man and a woman through the penetration of the vagina with the penis (or insertion of the penis into the vagina). This is the type which all societies believe to be holy, pleasing and ordained by God/the creator. It is atavistically innate or inherent to all animals (both humans and animals). It’s the best form of sex that ensures natural procreation.

Natural Sex is also called Coitus or Copulation in Latin. Many people see coitus, copulation or natural sex as the act of sexual procreation between a man and a woman; the man’s penis is inserted into the woman’s vagina and excited until orgasm and ejaculation occur; the physical union of male and female genitalia characterize by rhythmic movement of penetration, ejaculation and orgasm. Since during natural sex only the vagina receives only the penis, it is also called Vaginal Sex or Vaginal-Penis Sex. Any other form/type of sex shorts of these above characteristics is not natural sex but unnatural sex.

Unnatural Sex in short is the direct opposite of the Natural Sex. Any other form of sex or sexual interaction or sexual intercourse which does not involve penetration of vagina with penis is classified under unnatural sex. The following are all kinds and forms of unnatural sex: sexual intracourse (cyber-sex /cybersex, computer sex, Internet sex/netsex, phone sex or virtual sex), masturbation (self-sex), oral sex (blowjob/fellatio/sucking and licking) and anal sex. Sexual Intracourse or intracourse is a self simulation and stimulation of sexual intercourse (sexual arousal) which does not involve physical penetration of the vagina with the penis or physical contact of our body. It is a kind of virtual sex or contactless sex one imagines and experiences by watching the physical actions being done by another person or imagining the experiences and the feelings in a real time.

Intracourse mostly take place on the net, social media, watching porns, nudities; listening to sexual intercourse on phones, computers; video calling, voice calls and audios that simulate sexual activity of some sort. It is experienced in the imagination through the feelings or actions of another person. Intracourse is vicarious and virtual but it can arouse sexual feelings or gratification, ejaculation and organism. Because of its nature and the medium it is also called Cybersex [cyber-sex], Computer sex, Internet sex [Netsex/Net-sex], Phone sex or Virtual sex. Sexual intracourse is different from masturbation.

Masturbation, also called Self-sex [self sex], is a self sexual intercourse one enjoys with himself or herself which does not involve the penetration of the vagina with penis. It involves deliberate physical contact and massaging of the genitalia (penis or vagina) to arouse sexual gratification, ejaculation and orgasm of semen. A man who is a wanker or masturbator always rubs his penis or massages his penis to get sexual gratification (intense feelings of pleasure), excitement and ejaculation. A woman wanker will also use a sex-toy-penis or electronic-penis vibrator or any soft-penis like object to do her own things to get orgasm. Most women who are onanists (masturbators) use their fingers instead of penis for the penetration to get sexual pleasure and orgasm. Lesbians or gay women can masturbate themselves or one another with their fingers or sex-toy penis. They can use their fingers or the sex-toy penis to do the insertion/penetration in the vagina or the anus of the other partner or themselves for sexual pleasure. Gays or gay men can also masturbate themselves by massaging the penis of the other for sexual pleasure.

Instances of penetration of the vagina with the tongue, licking of the penis, sucking of the penis and licking of the vagina are called Oral Sex. One most common oral sex is when a woman sucking and licking of the penis of a man which is commonly calling Blow-job or Sucking. Here there is no insertion of the penis in the vagina but there’s insertion of the tongue in the vagina or insertion of the penis in the mouth and there is sucking-licking of the penis or licking-sucking of the vagina to arouse sexual pleasure for ejaculation and orgasm. Oral sex can be done between man and woman, man and man, or woman and woman.

One strange if not disgustingly wired kind of unnatural sex apart from intracourse, masturbation and oral sex is Anal Sex. Per its name (Anal Sex), it is the opposite of vaginal sex or vaginal sexual intercourse. Anal sex occurs when the insertion of the penis is done in the anus instead of the vagina. Some people practice this unnatural sexual intercourse just for pleasure. Man and man can do anal sex; man and woman can do anal sex; woman and woman can do anal sex using sex–toy penis. The vagina is there but they say they want the anus! Anal sex is also called Anal Intercourse or Sodomy or Buggery

I must say that I’m not interesting in considering sexual intercourse between a man and an animal or a woman and an animal which is also another kind of unspeakable and unnatural sexual intercourse. The Act of sexual intercourse or sexual activity between a man and an animal or a woman and an animal (or human and animal) is called Bestiality (Beastiality archaic spelling) or Zooerastia (Zooerasty) or Zoophilia. Many western countries and virtually all African countries do not only frown on (speak against) these forms and kinds of unnatural sexual intercourse but also ban them, and make them criminal offence (or illegal) to practise!

5.           Never take drugs or medicines before sex (for sex). Both the Chinese and the local drugs people take for sex have lethal effects in the long term. They rather either make you become sexually active for a while but sexually inactive for the rest of your life. They also can make you sexually inactive either by ejaculating early or making the sperm cells impotent for reproduction. These drugs kill the antigen and antibodies in the semen therefore resulting in impotency in the long term.

6.           Smoking wee, cigarette, drinking akpeteshie, gin bitters (tonics) like the Alomo bitters,  Agya Appiah, and all local and orthodox bitters and alcohol taking for sex do more harm than good. (So avoid them!).

7.           Always practice natural dieting habit. The natural dieting habit states or encourages regular eating of citrus and vegetables. Eat citrus and vegetables after meals. Use fruits as deserts after lunch and supper/dinner.

8.           Always eat before you have sex. Any little food that you eat before sex will do the magic of delaying early release of sperm (semen) therefore prolonging your sexual interaction with your partner. Avoid having sex with empty stomach or while you’re hungry. Taking food before sex works like taking gin bitters, alcohol or stimulants for sex but with food there is no side effect.

9.           After eating wait for about 2-5 minutes before sex. Again, after eating take 2 small cups of water before sex. The water is important in the process.

10.      If you do not have money to buy food, just drink 2 medium cups of water before sex and after sex. The water naturally delays the testes from easily releasing semen.

11.     If you can afford, drink any fruit drink or soft drinks like coke, fanta, malt or Guinness (at least one bottle of any of the drinks) after eating or without food before sex. Taking the drinks without food can equally work as if you have taken stimulants.

12.      If you cannot afford to eat food or drink soft beverages, eat toffee like hacks, tom-tom, ahomaka zinger, or any pepper mint toffee/sweet before sex. Chew, lick or eat 2 of any of the toffees. They can at least do the magic before sex.

13.      It has been medically proven that taking 2, 3, or 4 tablets of paracetamol (pain-killer like Panadol, analgesic) just before sex can make you active and prolong sexual interaction. But do not forget that when you become addicted to paracetamol (pain-killer like Panadol, analgesic) you will have negative effect in future. Taking paracetamol (pain-killer like Panadol) for sex is just like you’re using gin bitters, analgesic, wee or aphrodisia or Viagra. They are all stimulants which will affect your sperm cells and reproduction in future where your sex service is needed most. Avoid taking them for sex.

14.      Never stimulate or simulate your mind for sex when your sexual partner is not around or never simulate sexual interaction when your sexual partner is not with you at that time. This is because you put yourself in danger and trouble. This sometimes blindfolds some men to rape young ladies/girls. Again, becoming vicarious for sex when you know for sure that there is no one around to satisfy you sexually can also endanger your physiological organs.

15.      Never force your partner for sex. This is because when you force him/her you defeat the real natural purpose of having sex. Having sex should be happy and enjoyable.

16.      Always begin your sex with romance. Avoid beginning sex in a sudden manner (one time mode and quick). The romantic period could last for at least 3 minutes depending on the hour and mood of the situation. You eat; you wait for 2-5 minutes and you begin your romance which also last for at least 3 minutes before the actual sex begins.

17.      Every proper sexual interaction (activity) has 3 main processes (stages). For enjoying and lasting sex, it must travel through the three stages. And these stages are PRELIMINARY STAGE, ACTUAL SEX and ROMANTIC STAGE. The first stage is the preliminary stage. The preliminary stage has two components namely verbal psyching and romantic psyching. The preliminary process indirectly and directly prepares the mind, the soul, and the spirit for sex. The verbal psyching psyches the mind indirectly for sex. This releases unnecessary tension, stress and fear before sex. Here you tell your partner that you want to have sex with him/her. You talk about things that will arouse her desire to have sex. But the romantic psyching directly prepares the brain and all other physiological organs for sex. This triggers all organs to be active and prepares the necessary hormones for sex and for reproduction. Romance is an integral part of sex activity (sexual activity). It is really indispensable in any sexual interaction. The second stage is called the actual sex. When the body is conditioned for sex, the next thing to do is to have sex. Never rush during the actual sex; take your time and relax during sex. To delay in releasing early and easily semen in order to prolong sexing, talk or converse with your partner while sex is actively going on. The third and last stage of every sexual interaction is the romantic STAGE. Every sexual interaction begins and ends with romance. Romantic psyching at this stage does not stimulate the body for sex but rather to round-off the sexual process making it enjoyable and long remembered. As a matter of fact, after both partners have released and enjoyed the activity to the brim, you end sex with romance. Just after sex, any romance you make would not arouse the desire for sex again. But mind you, the romance when prolong for about 30 minutes, or you intermittently make romance 30 minutes after actual sex, the ending romance could stimulate or trigger your body for another sex. In this way, you could see that sexual interaction is cyclic in nature. In other words, the ending tag (romance) could become the starting tag (romance) to initiate the process again or all over again.

18.      Every normal man releases semen three times during sexing. The first release is normally likely to come early. But the second release is normally likely to take long time, more than the first release, before it will come. At times the third release never comes at all, or a little of the semen will come. When you want to use natural approach to enjoy a long sexual interaction, make sure that you remove the penis from the vagina when you feel like releasing the semen for the first time. Remove it quickly; don’t release the semen into the woman genitilia or on the bed, but psychologically try to prevent the semen from coming out. Immediately you remove the penis, use a clean handkerchief to wipe the tip (the vent/head) of the penis. This prevents the semen from been released and it will be stuck in the penis. When this happens the penis will become heavy and less stiff. After you’ve removed it don’t re-enter, but make romance with your partner for between 2 to 5 minutes or more. After the romance the penis will become very stiff again, and then you can re-enter or continue the sex. This time around relax, free your mind psychologically from the action. With this you can do it for a long time without releasing the first or the second semen. The quickly removal of the penis from the genital during sex is known as coitus interactus (Latin). 

19.      Whenever you’re having sex with a virgin (novice lady/inexperienced/green) lady be careful not to concentrate too much on the activity. This is because when you concentrate too much and you’re not getting full cooperation of the lady you easily ejaculate (release semen). Such ladies always struggle with men during sex for the time first or the second time. During sex such ladies will be moving their legs, head, buttock and thighs here and there, and even try to prevent you (men) from having sex with them. When these movements continue intermittently, the penis doesn’t get concentration, and therefore it would be hitting the thighs of the lady or the sides of the vagina instead of penetrating through the vagina. When the tip (apex/head) of the penis intermittently hits the sides of the vagina it loses its strength and begins to fall easily (ejaculate/release semen) instead of erecting. When this happens it is likely that you’ll ejaculate more than three times which is abnormal for the normal man. Not to disgrace yourself of early and easily ejaculation, avoid hitting the sides of the vagina, and concentrate on penetrating through the vagina. Again, prevent the lady from turning and twisting the vagina (and the entire body), and get full concentration and cooperation of the lady. Situations like this when the penis falls/ejaculates early it never erects again at tall at that moment. Even when you’re lucky it will take time before erection can take place.

20.      When you’re having sex and you feel like urinating (when there is urine) the urine therefore prevents early and easily release of semen. Even when you ejaculate at the normal rate, there will be little of the semen because of the urine. In the normal circumstances, after the release of the semen the penis should relax (soft). But when there is urine in the kidneys (urinary   bladder) and you did not urinate before sex, because of the urine, when you release semen, the penis will not become relax, rather it will become moderately stiff, heavy and tough. So with the least romance it will re-gain its strength and become healthy (more stiff, heavy and tough) again.

21.      Never force a lady (woman) for love and sex. This is because forcing her for sex can have both psychological and legal consequences for the lady and the man respectively. Legally, forcing her for sex can result in rape, sexual assault or sexual harassment which eventually can lead you into jail or you can be languishing in gaol. In every society/country, rape, sexual assault or sexual harassment is a criminal offence. Again, psychologically, the lady can be traumatized, which can also lead to madness, depression, psychoses, phobic disorders for men, sex, trust and reality or psychoneurotic. Most at times, rape, sexual assault, sexual abuse or sexual harassment can lead to Genophobia or Erotophobia or Coitophobia (which means the fear of/the fear for sex) or Gamophobia (the fear of marriage) or Philophobia (the fear of love). However, on the part of you the man, you will not get full co-operation of the lady when she is not ready for sex therefore you can easily release early (pre-mature ejaculation). The more the tip of the penis (or head of the head) hits outside the vagina instead of penetrating through it, the more easily it (the penis) releases semen.

22.      Even when you are using stimulants like aphrodisia such as Viagra for sex you still have to psychologically control your prostaglandin/sperm-releasing hormones from your mind in order to prevent early ejaculation and early orgasm. Because the stimulants only work out the physiological mechanism of the body.

23.      After each (every) sexual interaction or sexual intercourse, say “I love you!” to your partner.

24.      Some people believe that when you masturbate before you have natural sexual intercourse with a woman can delay ejaculation/orgasm, prolong sexual pleasure and enhance sexual performance. In my fact find, I have never come across any scientific or empirical research or prove of this rumour or perception. However, doctors and medical reports show that men or women who masturbate are likely to contract STDs (Sexual Transmitted Diseases) or SIDs (Sexual Infected Diseases). STDs like syphilis, gonorrhea, candidiasis (commonly known as White) are likely to infect men and women who masturbate. Again, men who masturbate are likely to have sexual weaknesses in the long term. This means that masturbation also has side effect of impotency or sexual weaknesses on the practitioner in the long term.

25.      Sex or sexual intercourse is a therapy. It is a fact of life that sex or intercourse or coitus or regular sexual activity is good for the body emotionally, psychologically and physiologically. This is why there is whole brand (or field) of psychology devoted to the study of sex and sexuality called Psychology of Sexuality or Psychology of Sex and Sexuality or Sex Therapy or Psychology of Sex or Sexual therapy by different professions. Regular sex reduces or prevents unnecessary stress, headache, depression, heart attack, hypertension (high blood pressure), emotional instability, psychological unrest, and unnecessary fear (phobia) for people, socialization and social/public interaction. Sexual pleasure, affection and procreation are just the traditional purpose of sexual intercourse. But we should not forget, as one writer says, any good thing carried to exceed is evil or any good thing in excess is bad or better still, too much of anything is bad. Sex is good for our health. It is a good healthy exercise; good for the brain and good for the mind.

26.      There is no proven medical number of times for sex per day. The number of times for sex per day should never be fixed or regular per day. It should be natural, irregular and moderate per day or week or month; it should be at any time as long as it is natural (or there are mutual feelings for sex by both the man and the woman or as long as one partner who is on the sexual edge for sex can arouse the sexual readiness of the other partner for sex). It shouldn’t be a rota like ones per day, making it 7 times per week or 28 times per month or 336 times per year—no! Again it shouldn’t be three times per day, making it 1008 times per year or 10 times a month or 5 or so times per year or month or week or day—no!

27.      Lovers can make love or have sex in the morning, afternoon, evening or night. There is no definite and ideal time for having sexual intercourse. Perfect time for sex and the number of times for sex in a day or week or month or year depend on the lovers. This is because at any point in time the feelings of ejaculation and orgasm are still the same irrespective of time or the hour. While both partners are ready for sex then the feelings are the same. But it requires both partners to make the feelings enjoyable, memorable and long-lasting. Because humans have individual differences and personalities, some prefer sex at a specific time or hour. Majority of us have it in the evening or night. But preferably having sex after dinner (supper) in the evening or night is good or having it early morning (dawn) of the day. If you know your partner well you should know what time s/he wants sex and what time s/he doesn’t want it. Some women or ladies or girls become bored and inactive after having sex; in this case you should have sex with them in the night or evening when they’ve finished from work or in their day-off (but not in the morning or afternoon when they will go to work after sex). Some always want it when they feel cold or they become cold or more often in winter. As we read earlier (on point 25) that sex reduces unnecessary stress, tension and anxiety, some people also become active, happy, healthy and have the vim (vigour) to perform good at work or in the school or in their duties after having sex. If your partner is that type then you can have sex in the morning or afternoon before s/he goes to work or after work and dinner in the evening/night.